Why would anyone want a vibrator? That’s a question with many answers, obviously, but if we skip around the folks who require one to orgasm for assorted reasons (antidepressants, mobility issues, etc.) the answer is usually because vibrators, whether you’re using them solo or with a partner, are fun! As a general rule, choosing a sex toy should be like choosing a ride at an amusement park: because it looks like a great time.

How exactly do you decide on your first vibrator when you’ve never tried one before? Many people start by playing with something they already own that vibrates. Back massagers are a famous (serious) joke, and many folks swear by vibrating toothbrushes. While these have limited use, they do give you a place to start, and possibly an idea of what you like. They can be a touch awkward since they aren’t designed for sex, and cleaning them can be a pain. But none of that is a big deal if you enjoy it.