Okay this is for anyone who is using a vibrator on someone with a penis, on their own bits or someone else’s. Once again for this part you can assume I am talking about a small straight vibe, such as was suggested in the “choosing your first vibrator” post. If you made a different choice in size and shape you will need to adapt these instructions a bit.
Vibrators are primarily marketed to stimulate clitoruses and g-spots, not exclusively but primarily. There are some things on the market that are aimed at vibrating the penis but it is a bit telling that frequently cockrings that vibrate are advertised to be worn on the penis for the benefit of a partner. It is almost implied that the wearer won’t feel it, which is utter nonsense, something attached to a body part that is vibrating is going to be felt! Here are some suggestions for some more focused ways to explore vibration on the penis and the body attached to it.
The obvious place to start is the head of the penis, but that is probably getting ahead of yourself. For one thing if you have never used a vibrator before the penis is a rather sensitive spot to start with. Like I said about those folks with vaginas, sending someone through the roof is not the best start, even if it’s yourself. There are also plenty of other areas to try before you even get there.
There are parts of this that are going to seem very familiar to anyone who has read my post on “using a first vibrator on those with a vagina” but since a lot of folks will only read one of the two I am going to just go ahead and repeat myself.
The best places to start experimenting are the sides of the neck, the nipples, the tops and insides of the thighs, and the crease between the thighs and hips. The sides of the torso, armpits and feet can be fun too, though tickling is a possibility in these areas. Since tickling can be a good thing sometimes go ahead and try it. You want to take your time and just explore; this should be a slow and sensual experience.
As a note: the slow part applies to power play relationships as well. Even if your relationship does not usually have a slow and sensual theme it is valuable to start slow here to get a good feel for the effect the vibration is having. Vibrators have different effects on different people and figuring out exactly what they are is helpful in any kind of relationship.
When you get around to the genitals, start near the base of the penis and scrotum and draw the vibe around that area without touching the actual bits yet. You want to start with the vibe set to a very low speed and go very slowly. Everyone is different but in talking to folks I have found that it is more often those with a penis that find vibration too intense rather than those with a vagina. Sometimes too intense means that it hurts and sometimes it means an unexpected blast off, but either way it’s a bit much. You should proceed slowly until the person being vibrated adjusts a little, even if that person is you. If you find after some trial and error that the human in question is still not comfortable with the sensations then stop and try a different approach. Try using some fabric wrapped around the vibe (or you) to deaden the vibration some. If that doesn’t help you will either need to find a much more gentle vibrator or switch to a different sort of play altogether.
Assuming the body does start getting a little more used to it and is ready to go further you should start at the very base of the penis and scrotum. Work your way slowly around at the very base and then start moving to more sensitive areas. The scrotum and balls tend to enjoy vibration so circle that area thoroughly and see if you can find a sweet spot. Work your way up the shaft, slowly and from all angles. The frenulum or the area just under the head on the bottom of the penis is often a good spot. Once again the whole area can be very touchy, so go very slowly and keep the vibe low at first.
If all of this has gone well and you are feeling adventurous, take the tip of the vibe and put it against the perineum or the blank skin behind the scrotum and in front of the anus (aka the taint) and press it gently up and into the body. The prostate is very close to the surface in that area and you can feel the vibrations in it if you get the pressure right. If you are working on a partner, this move goes particularly well with oral. The prostate is an area that tends to respond well to vibration but since a lot of people don’t know you can access it without anal penetration it remains unexplored the majority of the time. Of course, if you do wish to explore anal penetration you will need a toy with a flange or flared base to keep it in place, but you can go around it externally without worrying about that (please get consent!). So if you have permission, run the vibe all around the back door area as well.
There are likely to be plenty of things you will find that I haven’t mentioned. The fun of exploring is finding all the different places that vibration has an effect on, one way or the other. Take your time getting to know every inch of yourself or your partner(s) and enjoy!
